in your setup you are unable to flow enough water to keep up with your pump it sounds like...... You seldom need a valve on your return lines unless you are like me and use 2 overflows ran with 1 1/2" pipes lol but my sump is oversized as well so the extra flow in is not a problem. you need only to adjust the ball valve on the return line a little at a time about every 5 minutes or so until you get her dialed in where the return flow equalizes with the amount of drainage that your setup is capable of pulling out of the tank. SMALL CORRECTIONS OVER A LONGER PERIOD OF TIME!